The Crazy Simple Life

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I was at a conference this past weekend that I knew would hold wonderful gold for me. In the hotel parking lot, I felt the promise of this gold growing. As I walked through the lobby, I felt a calm warmth move down my spine. Then as I checked in at the conference and wandered around the space, all I could do was smile. And smile. And smile. Why?

Because I was around new members of my tribe. They were my gold.

A tribe speaks the same language, has a similar background, and intrinsically knows how to relate to each other. Over the weekend, we offered each other support and insights. We spoke a short-hand language and understood a lot with minimal words. We shared an understanding of "us" that didn't need to be explained or justified to non-tribe members. We could just be. Our tribe.

As I've gotten older, I've made a conscious effort to reach out to more people and expand my connections in the world. When I lived in Paris, I joined Meet Up groups and stayed open to introductions of "friends of friends." I risked being uncomfortable and not knowing anyone at parties with the knowingness that I may be connected with someone awesome today: a fellow tribe member.

I've "met" wonderful new connections online through private Facebook groups. As we share our lives, new business connections have emerged based on our common purposes and creativity. Some of my biggest support for new projects is coming from my Facebook friends who I only know through the computer – isn’t that so cool?

And I regularly reach out to various women leaders I respect to say a simple "Thank you for your work!" or to suggest working with them in the future. New connections start with turning the handle to open a door and then seeing what's on the other side. You never know, right?

As this crazy life continues to unfold each day, there are amazing possibilities that await us by connecting with new people. For me, this doesn’t mean “out with the old friends” or every new person is a Best Friend candidate. But it does mean there is a possibility for finding tribe members when we least expect it and allowing even bigger opportunities to present themselves.

Plus, it's important to remember that YOU offer gold as well. You may be the person who makes someone else's day extra joyful, or presents them with exactly what they are looking for. Value what you bring to the table and know that there are others who are looking for *you*.

Start small by introducing yourself to someone who has a shared interest. Consider making a connection whenever it feels right and allowing the process to unfold. You never know what could be discovered, and when you least expect it, a goldmine may be right at your feet.

Have you met some fellow tribe members lately? Like maybe on this website?